\nToddlers love attention. We all do, generally, except that most adults only want the right kind of attention, while children<\/p>\n
…will usually aim for the best level of attention they can get, and if the best is not on offer they will descend through the grades until they find one that gives them what they want\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
as Dr. Christopher Green puts it in his “Toddler Taming”.\n<\/p>\n
\nRecently I’ve had that demonstrated very clearly for me. The other day I was talking to someone and trying to keep Ingrid quiet for those few minutes that I needed for that conversation. That was not appreciated. She tried talking to me for a while, I wouldn’t respond with more than a “hmmm”. Finally she took my sunglasses, said “emme kuri” (“mummy angry”) and then threw the sunglasses on the floor, peering at me all the time. She knows very well that throwing things is a sure way to make me angry!\n<\/p>\n
\nMummy gets angry, Ingrid gets sad. When she’s upset, it’s just that and nothing more… but sometimes she is really sad and unhappy and tells me “Ingrid ledsen”, looking at me with big sad eyes and a quivering mouth. I’m not glad that she is unhappy but I am very glad that she understands this herself and can tell me!\n<\/p>\n
\nSadness and anger are the two emotions she has words for. Positive emotions have generally been expressed through smiles, laughter and “thank you”. But I guess we should give her some more positive words, too!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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