{"id":580,"date":"2008-02-06T23:13:44","date_gmt":"2008-02-07T04:13:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/wordpress\/?p=580"},"modified":"2008-02-06T23:13:44","modified_gmt":"2008-02-07T04:13:44","slug":"not-a-new-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/2008\/02\/06\/not-a-new-me\/","title":{"rendered":"Not a new me"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\nWe&rsquo;ve been watching Firefly on DVD. Yesterday we saw <a href=\"http:\/\/www.fireflywiki.org\/Firefly\/Jaynestown\">Jaynestown<\/a>. One of the side stories in this episode was about how Inara was hired by the local magistrate to &ldquo;make a man&rdquo; out of his 26-year-old son. Inara did what Inara does, and that was that. Afterwards, though, the son was wondering why he didn&rsquo;t feel any different &ndash; didn&rsquo;t feel any more like a man. I&rsquo;ve been feeling the same about motherhood.\n<\/p>\n<p>\nSomehow I had been expecting that becoming a mother would change me. That I would feel different, that I would feel like I was a different person. Perhaps not overnight&#8230; but surely a year would be enough time for any changes to take effect?\n<\/p>\n<p>\nBut I still don&rsquo;t feel any different. I don&rsquo;t feel that my role in life is to be a mother. I don&rsquo;t primarily identify myself as a mom. My <b>life<\/b> has changed, of course, in the sense that I spend my time differently, have a different set of priorities, etc. But I myself have not. I am my old self but with new things in my life &ndash; not a new self.\n<\/p>\n<p>\nDid becoming a parent change you?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We&rsquo;ve been watching Firefly on DVD. Yesterday we saw Jaynestown. One of the side stories in this episode was about how Inara was hired by the local magistrate to &ldquo;make a man&rdquo; out of his 26-year-old son. Inara did what Inara does, and that was that. Afterwards, though, the son was wondering why he didn&rsquo;t [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-580","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-observing_the_self"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/580","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=580"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/580\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=580"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=580"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=580"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}