{"id":20855,"date":"2025-07-10T20:50:26","date_gmt":"2025-07-10T19:50:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/?p=20855"},"modified":"2025-07-10T20:50:26","modified_gmt":"2025-07-10T19:50:26","slug":"dissecting_a_divorce_a_moment_of_clarity","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/2025\/07\/10\/dissecting_a_divorce_a_moment_of_clarity\/","title":{"rendered":"Dissecting a divorce: A moment of clarity"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/2025\/07\/01\/dissecting_a_divorce_all_roads_lead_to_rome\/\">Why is the content hidden?<\/a><\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re comfortable reading about the details of my divorce, <a href=\"#\" id=\"show_divorce_conclude\">click here to read this post<\/a>.<\/p>\n<div style=\"display:none;\" id=\"divorce_conclude\">\n<p>At one point I had a moment of insight.<\/p>\n<p>If everything I do, and all the love I give, is mistrusted and rejected, why should I continue to give?<\/p>\n<p>I am not going to beg him to please accept my love if he doesn&#8217;t want it, or is unable to accept it.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve been trying for years to make him see me for real. If I haven&#8217;t succeeded by now, then I never will. If by the age of fifty he hasn&#8217;t reached the kind of emotional maturity I need from a partner, then he never will.<\/p>\n<p>I don&#8217;t want to waste the rest of my life banging my head bloody against this wall.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p><script>\n$(document).ready(function() { \n  $('#show_divorce_conclude').click(function() { \n    $('#divorce_conclude').toggle(); \n  }); \n});\n<\/script><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Why is the content hidden? If you&#8217;re comfortable reading about the details of my divorce, click here to read this post. At one point I had a moment of insight. If everything I do, and all the love I give, is mistrusted and rejected, why should I continue to give? I am not going to [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[799,4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-20855","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-divorce","category-observing_the_self"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20855","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=20855"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20855\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":20857,"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20855\/revisions\/20857"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=20855"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=20855"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=20855"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}