It’s been ten months since we agreed to divorce, six since Eric moved out, and three since it was officially finalised. And it’s still taking up a whole lot of space in my head. I can be out walking, thinking about something random, and one thought leads to another, which leads to a third, and suddenly I’m thinking about the divorce again. There are all these thoughts and feelings I have about it, and our relationship, and its failure – mostly its failure – and since I haven’t let them out, they’re still in there. I am kind of fed up with them.<\/p>\n
For the sake of my own peace of mind, I need to get them out. Writing helps me clarify and organise my thoughts, and this blog is the place where I usually do that, so I will also be putting the divorce thoughts here. A kind of writing therapy, if you will.<\/p>\n
That’s going to be more personal than most of my posts, and I do realise that not everyone will feel comfortable reading about that. Not that I’ll be airing any dirty laundry or exposing juicy, intimate details, but still. Maybe you’re close to Eric and don’t feel comfortable with getting my (inevitably) one-sided view of things. Or that kind of personal, emotional, fraught content might simply not be what you’re here for. So I’ll be putting those posts up in a “collapsed” format with a link that you can click if you actually want to see the details. Again, these are primarily for my own sake – as this blog as a whole has always been<\/a>.<\/p>\n There will be around twenty posts in total, based on my current notes. (I did say I have a lot thoughts about this.)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" It’s been ten months since we agreed to divorce, six since Eric moved out, and three since it was officially finalised. And it’s still taking up a whole lot of space in my head. I can be out walking, thinking about something random, and one thought leads to another, which leads to a third, and […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[799,3,4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-20738","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-divorce","category-meta","category-observing_the_self"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20738","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=20738"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20738\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":20760,"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20738\/revisions\/20760"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=20738"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=20738"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.toomik.net\/helen\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=20738"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}