Two traits that I both have and have not.

  • Patient. I can be patient and impatient about the same thing at the same time. I can be bubbling with frustration on the inside while telling myself to be patient and acting patient. Above all I am impatient with myself while I make a great effort to be patient with other people. In this as in other things, I am not as kind towards myself as I am towards others.
  • Calm. Again something I strive for and most of the time achieve externally but not always internally.

So perhaps these are traits that I pretend to have.
Or: that I don’t quite have but find desirable and strive for.
Or: traits that I do have but that conflict with other parts of me, and therefore get expressed more or less at various times.